Hope everyone has a great Christmas when it comes!

Godzooki · Post by **Godzooki** » 26 Dec 2007, 02:29

bradavon wrote:It's not my cup of tea either but then neither is the registry office. Some mates of mine did that and it was anything but romantic. It's a special day so you need to make some effort.

£10,000 on one day is just crazy to me but then like I said I wouldn't go to the registry office either. Something in the middle. It gets more crazy when you know my sister was given the choice of £10,000 towards a house or £10,000 for one day.

Me and my ex were given similer options, She insisted on the wedding and we all know ow that turned out. Her folks must have lost about 5-6K in deposits and bills, if only they put that into the house they could have had it back.

bradavon · Post by **bradavon** » 26 Dec 2007, 03:10

(Most) Women do have an odd pervasion to "that special day". A wedding needs to be special (hence why I think a registry office is an awful idea) but it's just one day at the end of the day.

Tigercage wrote:I have been spoilt again this year

I used to be spoilt too but my parents have both (thankfully) been much more sensible this year. It got silly at times. Obviously I loved the presents but it just meant my Mum had a MASSIVE credit card debt each January to March which really isn't worth it.

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 26 Dec 2007, 10:39

bradavon wrote:It's not my cup of tea either but then neither is the registry office. Some mates of mine did that and it was anything but romantic. It's a special day so you need to make some effort.

Marrying the girl you love is special enough. Immediate family and close friends attending is more than satisfactory for me. Save the romance for the honeymoon. I mean does having an ice sculpture of a swan or a bunch of freeloaders downing vodka and canopies really spell romance??

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 26 Dec 2007, 10:42

Tigercage wrote:Me and my ex were given similer options, She insisted on the wedding and we all know ow that turned out.

I'm gonna take the term "ex" as a clue.

Did you actually get as far as going down the aisle?

Anyways... I got cash and some chocolates.

That's all I needed.

Godzooki · Post by **Godzooki** » 26 Dec 2007, 12:30

Markgway wrote:
Tigercage wrote:Me and my ex were given similer options, She insisted on the wedding and we all know ow that turned out.
I'm gonna take the term "ex" as a clue.

Did you actually get as far as going down the aisle?

Nah when i got back from my second stint in India last Christmas we split, was due to be married 07/07/07.

Reasons we split were, My other half at the time was getting a bit too lonely whilst i was away and with her parents doing nothing to support her i was forced to make a choice between my career and her. She won that but the cracks in the relationship were too deep and after multiple nasty arguements we mutually split on New Years day!

2007 started off as the worst year in my life but looks like its ending as the best. It was all a bit sad but i have not looked back since the split, we are still friends, i managed to gain alot of project management/life experience out in India, moved into a fantastic job here in Edinburgh, met a cracking lady and we moved into our new waterfront apartment in time for christmas!!

saltysam · Post by **saltysam** » 26 Dec 2007, 12:41

glad everything worked out for you Tiger

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 26 Dec 2007, 15:11

A sad story. But as long as you're happy now that's what counts I guess...

bradavon · Post by **bradavon** » 26 Dec 2007, 22:58

Markgway wrote:Save the romance for the honeymoon. I mean does having an ice sculpture of a swan or a bunch of freeloaders downing vodka and canopies really spell romance??

That's some jump from a registry office. There is definitely something in the middle of a registry office and an all out uber expensive wedding.

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 27 Dec 2007, 11:45

If you don't get married in a registry office then where?

I suppose you could have it in a garden.

That might not be too expensive or ostentatious.

I'm just not a fan of "the big event" or turning something that should be intimate and romantic into a bloated wastefest.

saltysam · Post by **saltysam** » 27 Dec 2007, 14:28

i got married in a church way back in 1986.can't remember much about it though,i was pissed

there's a video somewhere must dig it out....

gasteropod · Post by **gasteropod** » 27 Dec 2007, 19:26

House party wedding sounds a good idea

bradavon · Post by **bradavon** » 27 Dec 2007, 22:45

Markgway wrote:If you don't get married in a registry office then where?

I believe you can get married anywhere as long as you have a minister present. Somewhere that is special to the two of you.

saltysam wrote:There's a video somewhere must dig it out....

And put it on You Tube

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 28 Dec 2007, 01:49

saltysam wrote:i got married in a church way back in 1986.can't remember much about it though,i was pissed

And to ensure a blissful marriage you've remained in that state ever since...

bradavon wrote:I believe you can get married anywhere as long as you have a minister present. Somewhere that is special to the two of you.

True enough.

Yi-Long · Post by **Yi-Long** » 06 Jan 2008, 23:25

I'm back from my girlfriend. OK Xmas. Been out to dinner a few times, been skating and bowling, been assaulted by her little nieces, etc etc.
I dont like Xmas much, and I dont like having a busy schedule, but it was OK I guess...

Still though, I'd rather spend Xmas in bed watching movies and playing games and eating lots of unhealthy sweet crap.

Anyway, about marriage: I'll let my girlfriend decide on how she wants it. It's her day. I already know I wanna spend the rest of my life with her, so I couldnt care less about a formal ceremony. Plus I dont have many friends, and I hardly have a family, so all I have to do is show up, shut up, grin like a masturbating monkey all day long, and hope we'll get through the day without me setting people on fire or punching people out.

I do hope we will marry in Hong Kong or some place far from here, so I'll have a good solid excuse for not inviting relatives and such