Why can't intelligent women find husbands?

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 27 Feb 2005, 02:08

According to a report... the more intelligent a woman is the less likely she is to find a husband. Yet switch gender and the inverse is true. Smart men get more interest when it comes to marriage.

So guess I'm safe...

Why is this? Are men afraid they will be outshone by their better halves? Do men prefer dumb blonde types? Is intelligence in a female a turn-on or a turn-off?

Mordib · Post by **Mordib** » 27 Feb 2005, 08:52

I think this is just another made up statistic built up on some flimsy circumstancial evidence that has no real value...

If it is true then its because the intelligent women cannot decide what sort of bloke they want.... they still crave the badboy male that nearly all women desire (whether they admit it or not) but then also have urges to find an intelligent male so that they can be with someone at their level. Only problem is whichever one they go for theyll always end up yearning for the other, grass is greener on the otherside, and all that....

m.

ICE-angel · Post by **ICE-angel** » 27 Feb 2005, 18:04

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 27 Feb 2005, 20:43

So would you guys mind if your wife was more intelligent than you?

I admit it would disconcert me somewhat. Not because I have to be THE smart one, but because I like to be on even footing. AS intelligent as me is just fine in my books.

If one person is significantly more intelligent than their partner there's always going to be a gap that can't be filled. Sometimes you want endless passion and rolling around the sheets other times you want to debate the merits of Orson Welles... 8)

Mordib · Post by **Mordib** » 27 Feb 2005, 20:56

I'd actually really like to have a wife that was more intelligent than me (though i doubt ever plan to get married, even to whichever lucky lady chooses to spend the rest of her life putting up with me. no kids either.)

I may be a little put off if she was more intelligent and knowleagable than me in every area of our lives, but if she was just generally more intelligent then i think it could lead to really interesting and fullfilling life together.

m.

Unrealnils · Post by **Unrealnils** » 28 Feb 2005, 11:57

A more intelligent wife wouldn't bother me . i

gojensen · Post by **gojensen** » 28 Feb 2005, 12:06

Mordib wrote:they still crave the badboy male that nearly all women desire (whether they admit it or not)

And why is that? It always pisses me off to see this stupid badboy slackers running around with the pretty babes

As for the topic... a stupid wife is... eh, hard to live with. When you at all times need to explain stuff you feel is self-explaining and logical you get kind of frustrated... I know this from personal experience... but what can you do about love eh?

Mordib · Post by **Mordib** » 28 Feb 2005, 13:55

gojensen wrote:
Mordib wrote:they still crave the badboy male that nearly all women desire (whether they admit it or not)
And why is that? It always pisses me off to see this stupid badboy slackers running around with the pretty babes

its becasue they pose a constant challenge. It used to fustrate me during my early 20s that my female friends would go to great lengths to tell me how all they ever wanted was to find a nice guy who would treat them well and generally just be a great boyfriend, yet they always actually went for the bad boys or the guys that treated them shit. It took me a few years to realise that for most women in their 20s safety and security were a total subconsious turn off, and the challenge of keeping a bad guy in check and interested was a big turn on. what they were describing to me was the guy they wanted to settle down with... one day.

And now that they have all passed the quarter century mark they are actually starting to show more interest in the sort of guys they claimed they were looking for in the first place. they have spent many years being adventurous and exciting and now they are instinctively looking for someone to settle down with.

m.

Yi-Long · Post by **Yi-Long** » 28 Feb 2005, 14:11

Although it's ofcourse highly unlikely there are women out there that are smarter then I am, I certainly wouldnt mind finding and dating such a women. Ofcourse, she has to be pretty as well

I know a very smart, pretty chinese girl btw that is studying to become a doctor. She's a friend of my girlfriend. Supposedly she only had a boyfriend once when she was younger, and she hasnt been dating since. It's really weird, cause she IS looking for a boyfriend (getting a bit desperate even I believe, as she has mentioned more then once that she wants a relationship), and she has no annoying features or whatever...
So my guess is her good looks plus her intelligence is intimidating to guys!? Or she's just a bit too shy!? Hell I dont know but it's a miracle she's still single... as she's also very very nice and kind etc...

Mordib · Post by **Mordib** » 28 Feb 2005, 14:52

fancy passing on my email address to her, highbrow discussion and well mannerd courtship gaurenteed??

Id suggest in cases where the womans really intelligent but hasnt found herself a bloke its merely that she can spot all the geenral fakeness that blokes tend to use to impress. ignorance really is bliss you know

m.

degeneration · Post by **degeneration** » 28 Feb 2005, 17:04

I think shyness may have something to do with it, cause my current girlf is very good looking (I think) and is very intelligent (currently doing a PhD in optoelectronics), yet she was single for at least 5 years prior to going out with me.

When I found this out I couldn't believe it... cause she is very fit! Pic available on request!!

I guess it has either been her intelligence or her relative shyness that has put people off...

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 28 Feb 2005, 23:01

Yi-Long wrote:I know a very smart, pretty chinese girl btw that is studying to become a doctor. She's a friend of my girlfriend. Supposedly she only had a boyfriend once when she was younger, and she hasnt been dating since. It's really weird, cause she IS looking for a boyfriend (getting a bit desperate even I believe, as she has mentioned more then once that she wants a relationship), and she has no annoying features or whatever... So my guess is her good looks plus her intelligence is intimidating to guys!? Or she's just a bit too shy!? Hell I dont know but it's a miracle she's still single... as she's also very very nice and kind etc...

Nah, Mordib is ugly. Give her my address!!!!

degeneration wrote:Pic available on request!!

Ha-Ha!! Does she know about this??

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 28 Feb 2005, 23:15

gojensen wrote:And why is that? It always pisses me off to see this stupid badboy slackers running around with the pretty babes

There's a part of many (but not all) women that requires them to play submissive to male dominance. They are drawn to the threat and danger these men represent. Why this is I don't know? Sometimes it's frivilous and no more than a passing phase; but in its worst form it is the reason too many battered wives and girlfriends put up with abuse that more progressive females wouldn't accept. Some would walk after one slap or punch... others stay under the most appalling circumstances and become addicted to being a victim. It's extremely rare that the gender roles are reversed.

degeneration · Post by **degeneration** » 01 Mar 2005, 10:00

Markgway wrote:
degeneration wrote:Pic available on request!!
Ha-Ha!! Does she know about this??

Yeah, it is her pic on her departmental group web-page, so is online for anyone to see!!!

She's got a different one on the main department web-page, but as she has told me, it is not as nice a pic of her!!! Her group one is good.

Also got a poorer quality camera phone pic of her. Not in any compromising situations, but I think she looks good in it too...

bradavon · Post by **bradavon** » 06 Mar 2005, 14:02

Personally I find out spoken, open minded women with minds of their own a turn on. I'd hate to go out with some one who does as I say just because I have balls. I know I'm probably in the minority though as men find women such as this intimidating.

It's because they're some how less of a man if they don't have complete control.

Markgway wrote:So would you guys mind if your wife was more intelligent than you?

Nope not at all. A air head doesn't usually have anything interesting to say.

Just because said women is more intelligent than me in one area it doesn't mean she is more intelligent anyway.

the68monkey · Post by **the68monkey** » 11 Apr 2005, 01:58

Markgway wrote:There's a part of many (but not all) women that requires them to play submissive to male dominance. They are drawn to the threat and danger these men represent. Why this is I don't know?

Why would Mark write this? I don't know!

Where's the smiley face that's talking out its arse?

(Aren't you glad I joined up, Markie?

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Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 11 Apr 2005, 02:10

the68monkey wrote:Where's the smiley face that's talking out its arse?

It's true. Compare the number of battered wives to battered husbands. Doesn't even come close. Many smart women suffer abuse, but they leave and move on. Can you explain why so many stick around for more? You could say "love" and at first that might even be plausible. You can't just stop loving someone. But what about repeat offenders? No point cataloguing it here, but we've all I'm sure read about cases where men do unspeakable things to their "loved" ones and get away with it because the woman won't press charges. Fear? Perhaps? But it's more than that. In many women there is some kind of mindset that unfortunately draws them to men of this cruel nature. On one end of the scale you have the teen girls who are attracted by the biker boy who shoplifts (it's dangerous, it's exciting); at the other end, serious violence and threat. Not the same, but one path leads to another. You very often hear about women rejecting the caring, sharing nice guy in favour of the rugged alpha male. It's therefore not inconceiveable that a proportion of women will allow this to go to the extreme. I know forward-thinking women have a hard time with this image and feminists would reject it outright. But ask yourself if anything I've said isn't at least partially true?

(Aren't you glad I joined up, Markie? )

Of course!!

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 11 Apr 2005, 08:39

Hmm.. I've heard some cases of women being abused or being victims of domestic violence in bad relationships, but it doesnt seem to be the same for men. Doesn't it happen to them, or don't they talk about it?
This does seem to be true when you go by the "real life" documentaries and TV soaps etc...

bradavon · Post by **bradavon** » 11 Apr 2005, 12:08

It certainly happens. A friend of my brother in law was beaten up by his wife. They're now getting divorced and (I think) she is seeing medical help.

Much like men should. The thing is men are more prone to violent acts than women it's more in men's nature and men's inflicted social expectations.