Bullets 'n' Babes

. Did you make her lunch too?

thelostdragon wrote:Brad, it must seem unbelievable and maybe even stupid to someone who has never experienced it.

Pretty much. I wouldn't say stupid. I'm proven time and time again the poorer people are, the more generous and kind they are. It should be the other way around but isn't.

I once met a Japanese/Korean couple in Vietnam, chatted with them over e-mail (although a not huge amount) and when I visited Japan in 2009 I was shocked to find he'd moved out for the week (he stayed at work) and gave me his flat. They didn't "really" know me from Adam.

It's definitely an Asian thing. It seems weird on one hand to lump all Asians under the same name (Middle East, South Asian, South East Asian, Far East are hardly ethnically the same) but Asians do all seem to share the same belief for family and giving to strangers, we don't in the West. Our family beliefs are certainly vastly different. I'm not saying the Asia way is better per se but different.

bradavon wrote:. Did you make her lunch too?

thelostdragon wrote:Brad, it must seem unbelievable and maybe even stupid to someone who has never experienced it.

Pretty much. I wouldn't say stupid. I'm proven time and time again the poorer people are, the more generous and kind they are. It should be the other way around but isn't.

I once met a Japanese/Korean couple in Vietnam, chatted with them over e-mail (although a not huge amount) and when I visited Japan in 2009 I was shocked to find he'd moved out for the week (he stayed at work) and gave me his flat. They didn't "really" know me from Adam.

It's definitely an Asian thing. It seems weird on one hand to lump all Asians under the same name (Middle East, South Asian, South East Asian, Far East are hardly ethnically the same) but Asians do all seem to share the same belief for family and giving to strangers, we don't in the West. Our family beliefs are certainly vastly different. I'm not saying the Asia way is better per se but different.

I'd say the asian way is better.

Although in HK people are more distanced than maybe in other countries. And it will also depend on the individuals ofcourse.

To an extent but Asians (and I know I'm grossly generalising) have no perspective of independence. It all comes from a family perspective and that's a polar opposite to living on your own. I know I'd hate still living with my family, I like my own space too much.

thelostdragon wrote:Brad, it must seem unbelievable and maybe even stupid to someone who has never experienced it.

I don't think it's stupid. I think it's nice that people are so generous and kind.

Where I'm from people invite themselves into your home... they're called burglars!

bradavon wrote:To an extent but Asians (and I know I'm grossly generalising) have no perspective of independence. It all comes from a family perspective and that's a polar opposite to living on your own. I know I'd hate still living with my family, I like my own space too much.

I know what you mean. In our culture you just don't move out of your parents' house unless you are getting married. Living on your own all alone is a rare thing in the East.

Markgway wrote:

thelostdragon wrote:Brad, it must seem unbelievable and maybe even stupid to someone who has never experienced it.

Where I'm from people invite themselves into your home... they're called burglars!

thelostdragon wrote:I know what you mean. In our culture you just don't move out of your parents' house unless you are getting married. Living on your own all alone is a rare thing in the East.

But you then move into another family . Being an Asian-Europe/Westerner which do you feel closer to? By that I mean do you feel the need for independence more than others in your family?

I know my Mum could never have her Mum still living with her (she's a lovely lady but can be very difficult) but she does everything for her otherwise. Orders her online shopping, collects her medicine etc... It seems like a fair compromise.